The other day I got a text from a friend that said: “Can you talk?”
My brain immediately went to: “What have I done? Did I do something wrong? Is he mad at me?”
My body went into a flight, fight or freeze response.
My heart was racing.
I had to stand up and move away from the computer, and take a few moments to shake it out.
Can you relate to this?
I caught myself shortly thereafter and was able to notice my thinking and the story I was telling myself.
Then I told myself a different story.
“I have no idea why he needs to talk, remember he’s been going through a hard time.”
I called him back and got his voicemail. I left a message, (because he’s old school like that.)
I share the story with you because I know I’m not the only one who experiences this.
Recently, I was coaching a WILL Member and she reflected on how law firm/good girl conditioning makes it so normal to feel like she’s done something wrong, almost constantly.
I also share this because one of the things we do first in WILL is work on your thinking.
You begin to notice your involuntary reactions and the stories you tell yourself.
Because being in frequent fight, flight, or freeze response takes its toll.
So before we even help you figure out what else you can do or your StrengthsFinder results…
You learn how to quickly calm your body and nervous system.
If you’d like to know more about WILL and how we can help you with this (and more!) book a call here.
My friend called back shortly and wanted to make a plan for dinner, just the two of us, so we could have some time together.
Far better than the story I was telling myself, right?
I invite you, right now, to notice what you’re thinking, what story are you telling yourself?
What other story could you tell?
If you’re having a hard time coming up with one, try this…put your hands on your heart and say…
“I am okay. I am safe. I am loved.” – Mel Robbins (Also a former lawyer!)
You are, your really are. ♥️