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🎤💖How Taylor Swift and Margot Robbie can help you leave (big) law
I don’t know about you...I am deeply inspired by these women.Let’s start with Taylor…Many nights before going to bed this summer, I had to get my Swift fix.I’d devour Era tour reels.The bridge from Cruel Summer has lodged permanently in my brain.I’m also obsessed...
What “toll” do you want to pay?
I recently drove across the George Washington Bridge and miraculously there was NO traffic. And then I noticed something else missing… the toll booths. Yes, I still paid a toll, via E-Z Pass, but no more physical toll booths. As a kid, I always was fascinated by the...
What did I do wrong?
The other day I got a text from a friend that said: “Can you talk?” My brain immediately went to: “What have I done? Did I do something wrong? Is he mad at me?” My body went into a flight, fight or freeze response. My heart was racing. I had to stand up and move away...
No one is right.
I’ve been thinking about an issue I’ve been having with a family member. We had different perspectives, and I started feeling indignant and righteous (one of my least appealing states of being). Then I decided to use mindset tools to help shift my perspective. I asked...
I believe in you.
Bottom line - coaching is so much fun because I get to show you how brilliant you are, how much I believe in you and help you see the badass that you are. (Btw, going tonight to see Jen Sincero, author of the You Are a Badass book series! Highly recommend!) It’s easy...
How does one become a sword swallower?
A coach I work with has become obsessed with sword swallowing. She’s not training to do it, but she loves the metaphor of it. She shared this the other day: In order to swallow a sword, you must override every instinct. As the sword descends down the throat into the...
You’re not “just” anything
One of the hacks to change your life is to change your language.To tune into words that diminish, derail and deflate you.The word “just“ is one of them.I hear women say things like… “I’m just taking some time off.”“I’m just a fifth year.”“I’m just exhausted.”As women...
Hummingbirds and shoulds
The other night at 3 AM, I was visited by a parade of “shoulds.” “You should have done this differently.” “You should have left more time for that.” “You should not have said no when you did.” “You should have said yes to this when you didn’t.” “You should not have...
Her mother’s smile was…
Recently, I got an email from a WILL Member who was not able to attend a group call because she was on a family vacation. She sent me some photos. One photo was of her mother walking behind her on a path. Her mother’s smile stole my heart. I could feel the beaming...
Excuses? Or self-compassion?
Recently on a call, a client I’ve worked with for a long time said, “I know you’ll think… that’s an excuse.“ I was having no such thoughts. I was noticing her either/or thinking. I see it in myself, and I see it in my clients… You’re either a lawyer/or… Fill in the...
Compounding Anxiety and Life Preservers
The other day, I spoke with a woman who told me that she wakes up every morning with generalized anxiety. There’s no particular matter she is worried about specifically, yet her heart races and her eyes pop open in fear. She’s also not able to be present with her...
Rescued by a magical SWAT team
This is what a former big law attorney told me… “When I was a fourth-year associate, working till the wee hours of the night, my fellow juniors and I would fantasize about being rescued by a magical SWAT team. We imagined someone would swoop in and helicopter us...
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