One of the hacks to change your life is to change your language.To tune into words that diminish, derail and deflate you.The word “just“ is one of them.I hear women say things like… “I’m just taking some time off.”“I’m just a fifth year.”“I’m just exhausted.”As women...

The other night at 3 AM, I was visited by a parade of “shoulds.” “You should have done this differently.” “You should have left more time for that.” “You should not have said no when you did.” “You should have said yes to this when you didn’t.” “You should not have...

Recently, I got an email from a WILL Member who was not able to attend a group call because she was on a family vacation.  She sent me some photos. One photo was of her mother walking behind her on a path.  Her mother’s smile stole my heart.  I could feel the beaming...

Recently on a call, a client I’ve worked with for a long time said, “I know you’ll think… that’s an excuse.“ I was having no such thoughts. I was noticing her either/or thinking. I see it in myself, and I see it in my clients… You’re either a lawyer/or… Fill in the...

The other day, I spoke with a woman who told me that she wakes up every morning with generalized anxiety.  There’s no particular matter she is worried about specifically, yet her heart races and her eyes pop open in fear.  She’s also not able to be present with her...

This is what a former big law attorney told me… “When I was a fourth-year associate, working till the wee hours of the night, my fellow juniors and I would fantasize about being rescued by a magical SWAT team.  We imagined someone would swoop in and helicopter us...

I saw this meme on Facebook while in the back of a car on the way to the airport. I was flying up to Portland, Maine for a work gig. I clicked Like and smiled to myself. Calm is not usually my superpower.  Impatience is deeply imprinted in my DNA. I was pleased that I...

In WILL we define work a little differently. The “WILL work” takes many forms. Your WILL work could be to… Take a nap. Read a beach novel or female driven 19th Century mystery. Listen to a podcast. Go out to dinner with your friends or family and leave your phone at...

A friend of mine from college, Mark Leibovich, has the number one book on the New York Times best seller list. I met Mark at the University of Michigan. We went to a summer program in New England together, where we read Walden on the shores of Lake Winnepesaukee,...

The other day I was telling a WILL Member that I’m always in a coaching program. Why? Because for me it is the fastest, most efficient way to get where I want to go. I learn from people who are further on their journey. I receive… Expert advice. A fresh perspective....

“Now I know I can leave something that isn’t working for me.” - Arielle, NYC This quote sums up what many women receive from their WILL journey. So many women who come to WILL feel beholden, trapped and stuck. Does that feel familiar? Every time you have a choice to...

“You are not a machine. Stop treating your body like one. Don’t accept others expectations of you to act like a machine.” Angela said this to me as we were having a catch-up call. She’s been on pause with her WILL journey because she’s been dealing with serious,...