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Why people don’t like it when we speak up (and why we HAVE to)
Paradoxes help me live outside of the either/or. Paradoxes help me live in the both/and world, which to me, is a more honest representation of my human experience.
This is no joke
Last week Above the Law reported about a second associate suicide at the firm Sheppard Mullin.
This one made the press, but how many didn’t?
This is also following the suicide of Chelsie Kryst, former lawyer and Miss USA.
Strategy alone won’t do it
When it comes to transforming your life, strategy alone doesn’t work. Mindset alone won’t do it either.
There is no one answer because there is only one you
There is NO ONE way to go from lawyering to a non-legal role because there IS ONLY ONE OF YOU.
No more victim blaming
I’m done with victim blaming, and I hope you are too. Maybe you haven't done “it” yet. Left the job. Ended the relationship. Lost the weight. Whatever your “it” is. Can we agree not to spend any more time on “why not”? Want to join me in looking forward? No more...
When can anger be appropriate?
Because of Omicron, we canceled our plans to go upstate for the holidays. I had visions of staying home, snuggling on the couch, eating popcorn and watching 80's holiday movies. My two boys are now 18 and 16. Needless to say, spending time with their mother is not...
Eight years ago this week …
This week marks eight years since my mom, Suzy Lowinger left us. As she was dying, she became more and more filled with light. (It didn’t hurt that she dyed her hair platinum a few weeks before). That was quintessential Suzy, squeezing every bit out of life, going...
Try this to help you through the holidays
I wish you a wonderful evening and day tomorrow. As someone who doesn’t celebrate Christmas, I see it from the outside. Can I be honest? It can feel heavy with expectations. Especially after these two years, as people may gather in larger groups, the pressure to “have...
Go from resignation, to rage, to relief
Are you ready to give up your feelings of powerlessness and resignation?To tap into your divine rage?To experience full-bodied relief like a joyful, tingly exhale?As women, we are taught to be afraid of our anger.To smush it down, snuff it out, suppress it.It’s so...
I’m obsessed…
Like millions of others, I’m obsessed with Ted Lasso.(Spoilers ahead so if you haven’t finished Season 2, you’ve been duly warned!) I’m a little ashamed to admit how many times I’ve watched Season 1. Okay, at least four. Some choice episodes may have been consumed...
Have you ever fantasized about this?
This is what a former big law attorney told me... “When I was a fourth-year associate, working till the wee hours of the night, my fellow juniors and I would fantasize about being rescued by a magical SWAT team. We imagined someone would swoop in and helicopter us...
How can I be nicer to myself?
"How can I stop being so mean to myself?" The big takeaway from the workshop I ran earlier this week was... Boundary setting is both an external AND and internal job. I shared this framework (based on William Ury's book The Power of a Positive No) and want YOU to put...
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