Recently a WILL member said this… "Law firms train associates to feel small.  But rather than let them have the power and control, I NOW KNOW, that in fact, I am in control here." It took her awhile to arrive at this realization.  It’s hard to believe you are in...

I spoke with Sarah this week.  She lives in Seattle. One of the things she said she wanted was to take a vacation. "When’s the last time you took one?" I asked. She paused, eyes looking up and to the right... (thinking, thinking, thinking). "I can’t remember." Does...

A question that WILL members tackle is "when is the right time to leave big law". When you want to leave, yet your fear runs the show,  you’ll make excuse after excuse. You’ll rationalize your way into staying. (Have you done that hundreds of times?) The truth is,...

After watching some Sarah Cooper videos on YouTube the other night, a video of her from 2017 popped into my feed. Apparently, she worked at Google and had her big breakthrough when she wrote a meme and then a book about "How to Look Smart in Meetings." The key point...

I remember my initial call with my longtime coach, Nicole. It was twelve years ago when I worked for a public health non-profit. I had just finished my coach training and desperately wanted to leave my job and coach full time. I burst into tears when she asked me what...

I recently had a consultation with a woman who said she always feels behind, never doing good enough and at risk of being exposed. Anyone else feel this way?   Later that day, on a WILL Mastermind call, a member of the community said something similar… that she’s...

I was on a virtual retreat last May 9-10, 2020 with 18 members of the WILL community. We were supposed to be in New Mexico, at a gorgeous resort and spa... but that's not happening! While I am grieving that loss, I am ALSO appreciative of technology and delighted to...

While enjoying the latest O magazine, I read this in the 20 questions with Michelle Obama. "When in your life have you needed courage?" Her answer stopped me cold. "Giving up a law career I didn't want and following my own path - it hasn't always been easy, but at...

Flipping through a recent issue of O magazine, I saw this photo... It made me weep. Especially for the sentiment, and also for the physical proximity of pre-Covid human life.   Mostly though, because this is what I aim to do as a coach. In our best coaching...

I was working with a WILL member in an AmLaw 100 firm.She was a 5th year European associate in M&A. After going to home for her mother’s birthday she got chastised for leaving during a deal. She had transitioned everything and believed the junior partner had it...

It was a beautiful fall day, early November… and I stood on the corner crying.Neighbors and parents walked by, glancing sideways. I had just dropped my Kindergartner off and learned it was "Open School Day". I had no idea. Between being new, having my younger son in...

WILL members tell me that firm leaders have little to no understanding of the new reality of women lawyers.   You try to school kids from home, not kill your spouse who is co-working and afraid too, the dishes pile up, too much screen time and be sure to stay six...