Do you identify as a risk-averse lawyer? Not making decisions or hesitating for a long time can either help you stay stuck or move forward! Let me give you a story of a recent WILL member. She came to WILL a few months ago, extremely burned out and in the middle of a...

The level of shame, self doubt, and feeling of being stuck that I hear from current and prospective WILL members is pretty significant. It’s as if (big) law says: you should be so grateful to work in a prestigious place with such smart people and forever be in service...

I came out late. I was 27 years old and working at a day center for homeless and runaway kids. Most were queer. It was a very gay space. I remember when my boss John interviewed me, he asked, “What’s your deal? Are you gay or straight?” I blushed and immediately shot...

Oh people, here I go… sharing the thing that women “of a certain age” no longer want to share. My age.   I am turning 55. It’s such a good number.  I’m actually kind of excited for it.   Not sure how I’ll feel about 56! 😊 Trying to stay present! The lightning bolt of...

Recently, A WILL member I’ll call Jackie finished the first phase of her work. When she had initially signed up, she told me, “I’m going to sign up and then not do it.” I told her we weren’t going let that happen.  And we didn't. WILL helped her big leave her big law...

A few months ago, I wrote about a WILL member who couldn’t get out of bed. Her body said, “No. We are done for now.” She took a one-month leave of absence, and then extended it to two. Still weary, she went back to work, where the boundary violations began...

Do you love to learn?    How long did it take you to become a lawyer?  You did at least 3 years in law school, plus your years of practice.  So at a very minimum, 3-4 years. What does law school teach you to do REALLY?  Might you agree that primarily, it teaches you...

I got a text from a WILL alumna this week that read:Since leaving (big) law, Courtney has worked in a non-legal capacity at a dynamic real estate company in San Francisco. She now gets to be in meetings much of the day, which is her idea of a good time. Sitting alone...

One of the many reasons I started WILL is that I flailed early in my career.  It seemed like law school was one of the only options. When I graduated college, many people asked… “Are you going to go to law school?  You can do anything with a law degree.” My dad had...

[Trigger warning: Fertility challenges, pregnancy loss and premature baby discussed in this post.] Mother’s Day is complicated. Whether or not you’re a mother, have a challenging relationship with yours, want to be a mom, or no longer have a mother. When I was in my...

What if you don’t know what you want “to do”?What would you tell a 16 year old who worries they don’t know what they want “to do”?Last week I wrote about my son Elias.  This week, my other son Laszlo, turned 16.Sometimes during my morning meditation, I cultivate a...

Last week, my son was back in his school building, hunched over a desk in the gym, taking the SAT. As I dropped him off, I held myself back from hugging him goodbye in front of the other kids, and saying, “Do your best, but really, it doesn’t matter what you get on...