There has never been a better time to leave (big) law! Seriously. As you know, some firms are requesting, or requiring people to come back into the office.  Many people I speak with do not want to go. Instead of going back into the office, where would you like to go?...

The other day, I spoke with a woman who told me that she wakes up every morning with generalized anxiety.  There’s no particular matter she is worried about specifically, yet her heart races and her eyes pop open in fear.  She’s also not able to be present with her...

A WILL member I’ll call Samantha has been working with us for just a couple of months.  She gave her notice last week. She spent nine years practicing law, and nothing was changing. That is, except for her mental and physical health, and not for the better. She does...

Sometimes, I speak to women who want to be in another job right now. The suffering, compounded anxiety and exhaustion is no joke. They are depleted and they are done. If that feels familiar, you could probably be in another legal job pretty quickly, or take a leave of...

Recently, I had dinner over at a friend’s apartment (which was so lovely!) I noticed that the elevator in her building didn’t have a display at the top to show where it is when you call it. I didn’t like that. When you watch a YouTube video, one of the very first...

As a lawyer, you are trained to spot issues and protect your clients. Add to that a natural negativity bias, because our brain is designed to protect us, and you’ve got a challenging situation! When you imagine the worst, you are imagining against yourself. The life...

I recently went up to Northampton, Massachusetts, to visit with one of my best friends. It was great to be back as I used to live there. One of the highlights was being invited to a "grief and release" party. Maybe that sounds strange, but let me tell you about the...

Do you identify as a risk-averse lawyer? Not making decisions or hesitating for a long time can either help you stay stuck or move forward! Let me give you a story of a recent WILL member. She came to WILL a few months ago, extremely burned out and in the middle of a...

The level of shame, self doubt, and feeling of being stuck that I hear from current and prospective WILL members is pretty significant. It’s as if (big) law says: you should be so grateful to work in a prestigious place with such smart people and forever be in service...

I came out late. I was 27 years old and working at a day center for homeless and runaway kids. Most were queer. It was a very gay space. I remember when my boss John interviewed me, he asked, “What’s your deal? Are you gay or straight?” I blushed and immediately shot...

Oh people, here I go… sharing the thing that women “of a certain age” no longer want to share. My age.   I am turning 55. It’s such a good number.  I’m actually kind of excited for it.   Not sure how I’ll feel about 56! 😊 Trying to stay present! The lightning bolt of...

Recently, A WILL member I’ll call Jackie finished the first phase of her work. When she had initially signed up, she told me, “I’m going to sign up and then not do it.” I told her we weren’t going let that happen.  And we didn't. WILL helped her big leave her big law...