I’ve been thinking about an issue I’ve been having with a family member. We had different perspectives, and I started feeling indignant and righteous (one of my least appealing states of being). Then I decided to use mindset tools to help shift my perspective. I asked...

Bottom line - coaching is so much fun because I get to show you how brilliant you are, how much I believe in you and help you see the badass that you are. (Btw, going tonight to see Jen Sincero, author of the You Are a Badass book series! Highly recommend!) It’s easy...

A coach I work with has become obsessed with sword swallowing. She’s not training to do it, but she loves the metaphor of it. She shared this the other day: In order to swallow a sword, you must override every instinct. As the sword descends down the throat into the...

One of the hacks to change your life is to change your language.To tune into words that diminish, derail and deflate you.The word “just“ is one of them.I hear women say things like… “I’m just taking some time off.”“I’m just a fifth year.”“I’m just exhausted.”As women...

The other night at 3 AM, I was visited by a parade of “shoulds.” “You should have done this differently.” “You should have left more time for that.” “You should not have said no when you did.” “You should have said yes to this when you didn’t.” “You should not have...

Recently, I got an email from a WILL Member who was not able to attend a group call because she was on a family vacation.  She sent me some photos. One photo was of her mother walking behind her on a path.  Her mother’s smile stole my heart.  I could feel the beaming...

Recently on a call, a client I’ve worked with for a long time said, “I know you’ll think… that’s an excuse.“ I was having no such thoughts. I was noticing her either/or thinking. I see it in myself, and I see it in my clients… You’re either a lawyer/or… Fill in the...

The other day, I spoke with a woman who told me that she wakes up every morning with generalized anxiety.  There’s no particular matter she is worried about specifically, yet her heart races and her eyes pop open in fear.  She’s also not able to be present with her...

This is what a former big law attorney told me… “When I was a fourth-year associate, working till the wee hours of the night, my fellow juniors and I would fantasize about being rescued by a magical SWAT team.  We imagined someone would swoop in and helicopter us...

I saw this meme on Facebook while in the back of a car on the way to the airport. I was flying up to Portland, Maine for a work gig. I clicked Like and smiled to myself. Calm is not usually my superpower.  Impatience is deeply imprinted in my DNA. I was pleased that I...

In WILL we define work a little differently. The “WILL work” takes many forms. Your WILL work could be to… Take a nap. Read a beach novel or female driven 19th Century mystery. Listen to a podcast. Go out to dinner with your friends or family and leave your phone at...

A friend of mine from college, Mark Leibovich, has the number one book on the New York Times best seller list. I met Mark at the University of Michigan. We went to a summer program in New England together, where we read Walden on the shores of Lake Winnepesaukee,...