Recently on a call, a client I’ve worked with for a long time said, “I know you’ll think… that’s an excuse.“
I was having no such thoughts.
I was noticing her either/or thinking.
I see it in myself, and I see it in my clients… You’re either a lawyer/or… Fill in the blank… an astrologer; happy; making money.
One of the things we work on and WILL is creating both/and thoughts.
I also think self-compassion comes into play. She was really struggling with something.
Many of us have a belief that self-compassion will “let us off the hook“. Be an excuse.
Self-compassion actually helps lubricate our hearts. Makes it easier for us to slip through and, ironically, move into action.
Put a hand on your heart as you think about something you’re struggling with.
Say to yourself: “This is a moment of suffering. It is part of the human condition to suffer. I am human. I give myself love and compassion for my suffering, as I would give to someone I love.“
How does that feel?
After that settles, ask yourself: “What’s the next step I am able to take right now?”
That’s how we slip and slide in WILL-land. With compassion, love, then taking that next courageous step.
Invite you to step into your leadership for your life.
Without excuses, without shrinking back, with compassion and courage.
You are more than one thing. Let’s discover what that is.