I was coaching a WILL member the other day who’s in her mid-fifties.

She’s getting ready to go on her first interviews in a while.

It’s also the first time where she’s heading into the room NOT thinking, “How can I sell myself? Will they accept me?“

Nope.

She’ll be going in thinking…

“This is a two-way conversation.  I get to explore if this role meets my recently clarified and defined checklist (thanks WILL) of what I’m looking for in a new role.”

One of the roles she’s interviewing for is a judgeship.

She told me that she and her husband were laughing that she might be one of the first people in the state to say, “No, thank you,” to the governor!

For homework, I gave her this assignment, and I want to offer it to you too…

Before you decide any small thing, pause.

Discern what you would really like to do.

Build your discernment muscle with the small stuff.

Would you rather eat kale or broccoli?

Do you want to get to sleep early or keep scrolling?

When your sweetheart asks if you wanna watch that gruesome TV show, what do you say?

And what the heck does this have to do with leaving (big) law?

As women, we have been conditioned to want what everyone tells us we should want!

We should just “go with the flow.”

Get along with everyone

“Be chill.”

I call bullshit.

It’s time to say, “No, thank you.”

No, I don’t want to watch another TV show about a white male sociopath.

Or the super bowl, (except for the halftime show).

And, yes, I want to eat the kale!

Your assignment this week, should you choose to accept it, is to discern what you want to do with the little things.

Then, when you’re offered a job that “no one in their right mind would turn down,” you have the lady balls, to say…

“No, thank you.”

And YES to what your heart, body and soul desire.

Sound good?

Let’s talk about what YOU want.