Because of Omicron, we canceled our plans to go upstate for the holidays.
I had visions of staying home, snuggling on the couch, eating popcorn and watching 80’s holiday movies.
My two boys are now 18 and 16. Needless to say, spending time with their mother is not exactly top of their priority list. My movie-snuggle vision wasn’t happening.
Towards the end of the break, my 16-year-old son, Laszlo, was washing some dishes before heading downtown (yes let’s acknowledge the dishwashing).
He casually said to me, “Last week, I had a sudden urge to watch all the Harry Potter movies, and I’ve watched them all except the last one.”
Me: “You did what?”
For those of you who have been reading my newsletter for a while, you may know that I am a huge Harry Potter fan (predating JK Rowling’s questionable views on trans rights).
I continued, “When did you watch them? Why didn’t you tell me?”
He babbled, “I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry.”
At first I plummeted into victim, “woe is me” energy. Then, I snapped out of it into clear and appropriate anger.
Literally, I wiped my tears away, stood up, turned and faced him, and said. “I get that you didn’t want to watch them all with me, and that’s fine. But I’m angry.”
More… “I know. I’m sorry, I’m sorry.”
I said, “I need a minute.”
I walked away, went into my bedroom and stomped around for a few minutes and took deep breaths.
I came back out as he was putting on his Vans and I did something rare and precious…
I let it go and dropped it.
I didn’t give him the silent treatment, and I also didn’t continue discussing the Harry Potter binge-a-thon.
He said, “I have some questions I’d like to ask you. Why was Snapes’s Patronus a doe?”
We talked about that and then he said, “I haven’t watched Part 2 of the Deathly Hallows yet. We could watch it together.”
“That would be nice,” I agreed.
Later, I took a walk to burn off my anger and adrenaline. I had a thought to share:
They say they’re only two emotions, fear and love. If that’s true then anger is rooted in fear.
My tears and anger were rooted in the fear that my son doesn’t really want to spend much time with me. While I know that that’s healthy and appropriate for a 16-year-old, it’s also useful for me to acknowledge my feelings without blame or shame.
I’m proud of my anger, because it helped me be honest and real with him without getting stuck in my victim energy.
Anger elevates. It helps us move from a lower vibration of feeling stuck in “woe is me”, to clarity and action.
What are you pissed off about!?!
Seriously! What do you want to scream, yell and punch pillows about?
Tap into your anger. It is your fuel for ascension!
Imagine how good it would feel to…
- Walk down a laid-out-for-you path to discover what else you could do.
- Make sure it’s a perfect fit and be guided every step of the way.
- Live with greater calm, peace and joy as you upgrade your mindset from meek to mighty.
- Overcome your resistance, fear and doubt.
- Blast past the limiting beliefs that kept you stuck in law…
If you want to say “No more feeling crap about myself in 2022. This is the year I go for it!”
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There’s never been a more appropriate time to be angry than now.
P.s. We did watch the Deathly Hallows: Part 2 and it was good.