Calm is my Superpower

I saw this meme on Facebook while in the back of a car on the way to the airport. I was flying up to Portland, Maine for a work gig. I clicked Like and smiled to myself. Calm is not usually my superpower.  Impatience is deeply imprinted in my DNA. I was pleased that I...

Growing Up in La La Land

Is growing up doing the "responsible thing" or is it following a dream? Slated to sweep the Oscars this year is the movie La La Land, which I LOVED. A central question is, what does it mean to grow up? Is following your dreams, even if it means living in a dingy...

The Most Important Relationship in Your Life

I recently came upon an old copy of Oprah Magazine with an interview of Diane von Furstenberg.  At the very end of the article, I found something I want to share... Oprah asked DVF what she was most proud of in her life. Her initial response was “My children,” as many...

I ❤️ Elizabeth Gilbert

It was love at first read. I devoured an excerpt from Eat, Pray, Love even before the book came out. The sentence: "Italian, a language more beautiful than roses," had me hook, line, and sinker. I had studied Italian in high school and understood in my soul what...

Power Posing on 5th Avenue

There I stood, in the stall of one of the nicest bathrooms on 5th Avenue power posing. I breathed in the heady scent of expensive soap, watched the seconds tick away on my phone, and summoned my courage to begin... I was about to start coaching one of the wealthiest...

Word of the Year

Many people know I pick a word for their year. A single word to focus their intention. A touchstone. Last year I couldn't decide on just one, so I picked two. (Hey, I'm a Gemini). They were... Ground and Grow. This year, I'm keeping it to one. Act. I'm not talking...

Leadership Lessons for Lady Lawyers – Part One

Often I get asked to coach a rising star. They are great lawyers and have partner potential but, through no fault of their own, don't know how to lead or manage people as well as they could. I work with these women to become more conscious and intentional in their...

Rituals and Habits

If there is an area of your life that isn't working, take a look at the rituals surrounding that area.  It is very likely that you take actions consistently, that hold you back. - Tony Robbins Rituals and habits are subtle powerful things. By rituals, I mean something...

7 Actions to Take in Times of Uncertainty

We are living in a time of more uncertainty than most of us have ever known. As Donald Trump assembles his cabinet members, it's hard for many Americans not to be scared. I'm doing my darnedest to maintain some calm and equanimity. Here are some things I am doing.  I...

Nouns v. Verbs

As a lawyer, you probably often define yourself by a noun. "I am a lawyer." This post is an exercise that gets you thinking about who you are, and what you want to do.  This will help stretch your curiosity about how you define yourself and what’s most important to...

A mistake made…

A mistake made multiple times is a decision.  - Benjamin Franklin I heard this quote recently and I've been turning it over in my mind. I'm not convinced I totally agree, but there's something to it… I make plenty of mistakes. I often repeat the same ones... i.e., not...

Monopolize Your Strengths

Recently my boys, ages 11 and 13 played a three-day long game of Monopoly. When they play they go full on... My younger son Laszlo, holds nothing back. He buys up Boardwalk and Park Place without a moment's hesitation, builds hotels and cleans-up. He's competitive by...